Am I sub/cuckold? Or Is she Dom?
posted by: john
posted on: 31 Jan 2008 21:21:35 -0000
Hi everyone,
I think You can help me. I am 40 and my wife is 35. I feel that
i am a sub male. Also my wife's behaviour looks to me like a
Dominant style. But I could not be sure. I need your opinion and
guidance for our life, as i never discussed this with my wife.
Please read my previous experience and let me know if we can go
from this to a femdom life style.
Here are our past experiences:-
I wanted to take my wife to another man to have fun in front of
me. This was my long time wish. I am scared to ask her.
One day when we are having sex i asked her if she would like a
body massage from a man. She said that if it is a real massage,
she would.
Then I found a man through a newspaper ad and told him my plan
and asked him to give a massage for my wife. I took her one day
to his place. I introduced her, saying that he is a masseur and
that he is going to do massage for you today.
I wanted to watch all without her knowing from a hiding place. So
I told her i am going out and will come back after one hour. She
thought she and the man were alone in the room, but I was
watching from my hiding place without her knowing as I had
planned with his help...
He arranged the massage bed perfectly like a real massage and
started to give her a massage while covering her body with silk
cloths. She was wearing bra and panties. I signalled him to take
off the cloth and do the massage. He removed the covering and
she did not say anything.
Next step, I signalled him to remove her bra and massage her
breasts. He removed it, and that time she was a little shy, but
did not refuse. He did a real massage for her breasts.
I was turned on when he touched my wife's breast. i had an
erection.. i do not know why. I felt, if another man touches my
wife i feel some kind of feeling.
Then I asked him thru signals to remove her panties and do more
erotic massage. He removed her panties and started to massage
her pussy area. She did not say anything. I think she was
enjoying it.
After finishing the massage, She came out. I was waiting outside
and took her to our home.
That night, She asked me to do massage for her breast and she
pushed my head to her pussy and ordered me to eat pussy.. I did.
When i touched her breast i felt something different, her breast
was full and nice and hard. When i asked her about it she did
not mention that she'd had breast massage. So I thought, She
really likes this kind of arrangement.
After a week when i asked her about going for a massage again,
She replied quickly "yeah", and she said she wanted to go the same
day i asked.
So, I called another man and arranged the same way as last time.
I explained to him about my last experience and my plan to watch
all without her knowing.
This time, he was about 25. A body builder. He started the
massage the same way and removed the coverings one by one, and
did breast and pussy massage for a long time.
She was enjoying as i watched from outside in my hiding place. I
signalled him to eat her pussy. he did and she-accepted. So, I
asked him thru signals to try to have sex with her.
He asked her, and she refused.
He replied Ok. He did not do any more that day. He told me when
we were alone to bring her next time and She will cooperate.
As we planned i took her to this person again after two days, He
did everything the same way as last time and gave her breast and
pussy massage and then oral for a long time.
After doing everything, He started to fuck her without asking
her or getting permission. But I was shocked that she did not
say anything and cooperated with him very well. Also, She told
to him not to tell her husband(me). He agreed. I smiled to
myself.
After a few days, She asked me to take her to that man to do
massage. So, I agreed and took her. He did everything the same
way as the previous time.
Now She is asking whenever she likes. I take her whenever she
asks and he does the same every time.
My Questions are:-
Why do I do these kind of things for her?
Am I a sub man? Or Is she a Dom?
After this, She ordered to me to do breast massage and eating
pussy every time.. Sometimes She asks me to do housework. Some
times i help without saying anything.
Now she has changed a lot and is forcing me to do some things. I
feel that she is a dom and i am sub. But i could not be sure.
When i am thinking about this alone, I feel happy and turned on
many times.
Can i talk to her about femdom and cuckolding subjects? Can i
arrange a man to cuckold me in front of her?
Please help me. Can i start a sub life?
Please send me a reply or post your reply on the site if
suitable.
thanks,
John
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Replies
Posted by: David / moderator | link | edited and published February 10, 2008 10:47 PM
Hello,
john wrote:
>I think You can help me
The best help I can offer you is to get real.
>i never discussed this with my wife.
That's probably your first mistake. Dom/sub relies on honesty
openness and trust to function well and healthily.
>Please read my previous experience and let me know if we can
>go from this to a femdom life style.
Your "experience" reads like a fantasy, and it that's all it is,
then it's best to post it here as a fantasy and ask people to
talk about such fantasies. The folk on this list are much more
likely to respond if you are honest with them.
The fact that you've subsequently sent in two replies to your
own post pretending to be another man, (both of which we
rejected and returned to you), lends credence to the idea that
you enjoy deceit and fantasy more than reality.
>I wanted to watch all without her knowing from a hiding place
If any of this were true, then that's definitely a breach of
trust. This is not the way to build a good Dom/sub relationship
with your partner.
>I was turned on when he touched my wife's breast. i had an
>erection.. i do not know why. I felt, if another man touches my
>wife i feel some kind of feeling.
It's quite common, perhaps even usual (some might say normal) to
become excited watching your partner make love with another
person. In my case I would prefer such an event to be one in
which my partner and I were working together for our mutual
pleasure. Deceiving my wife, as you suggest or fantasise that
you did, would be a source of anguish for me which would
diminish or remove the pleasure.
You then went on to tell us about further deceit by you
eventually involving other such fantastic encounters, during one
of which...
>She told to him not to tell her husband(me). He agreed. I
>smiled to myself.
This is something that I find most strange. You seem to be
getting pleasure from the idea that a woman would "cheat on you"
and deceive you. Although it has to be said that if any of this
were true, you would certainly deserve to be cheated on after
the way you suggest that you behaved.
What this suggests to me is that your pleasure comes from
manipulating people and deceiving them. So I'd say that you
don't deserve to call yourself a submissive. A good submissive
would be a far more honest and loyal person.
>Can i talk to her about femdom and cuckolding subjects?
Why not try it? It would be better than fantasising about ways
to deceive her.
>Can i arrange a man to cuckold me in front of her?
If she likes the idea, then perhaps you can.
>Please help me. Can i start a sub life?
When you've learnt how to be honest and open with your partner,
you can give it a try.
In the meantime please feel free to write more honestly to this
list/blog and we'll try to be of help.
sincerely,
David
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Posted by: john | link | edited and published February 11, 2008 12:04 AM
Hi David,
Thanks for your advice. I agree I made some mistakes, but I took
her to that man many times for her to have massage.
But i want to be a good sub for my wife and want her to be a dom
wife for me. Please give any ideas or advice on how can i begin
this life style.
thanks,
John
Posted by: raj | link | edited and published August 11, 2008 11:25 PM
i am interested in this, i am in india.
is it a pleasure to see your wife getting fucked?
Posted by: jim | link | edited and published August 19, 2008 2:05 PM
I can not answer for John, but I can tell you how I feel.
As an example, we have been on vacation and on one evening she
had a man come to our hotel room for a session of love making. I
was not allowed to be in the room but was called in before he
left. She told me that He wanted to say 'good bye' to me. I had
very mixed feelings. I was happy because she was happy. I was
allowed to masturbate so that in itself made me feel good.
Last evening, we were on our last nite of our vacation and she
looked so seductive and I attempted to make love to her. She
resisted and said she was tired. I know she wanted sex, but
said, 'you don't satisfy me. I want to save myself for someone
that can.' I know that very soon she will make a date with a boy
friend. I feel very disappointed now. It is very hard to wait
for those moments when she is happy. But I feel very happy when
they do come.