DOMestic Bdsm and Female Domination

You can train him. First, you can order him to tell you when he
gets close to cumming, and make him stop. This, carefully
managed, can be done repeatedly until you've had your fill. My
mistress has done this to me many times.

Should he fail, then you punish him. The obvious solution is to
make him eat up his mess - except of course that some devoted
subs really like this punishment, so you might have to look
elsewhere.

Christine has posted elsewhere about letting the sub cum only
while receiving his mistress's golden nectar orally.

It's really a matter of your taking control, I think. At least
in my somewhat limited experience.

best,
Soumis

In reply to Sarah's desires to use her male slave as a "human
dildo", I have experienced this training as a submissive. I find
it extremely frustrating and submissive,(but that's generally
the intention!) and I offer the following comments:

There are various ways of delaying (or if you prefer,
preventing) your slaves orgasm, and it can be an exciting twist
to place an onus on your slave by commanding him (or reinforcing
the existing command) not to orgasm without your express
permission.

Obviously you will need to follow up any breaking of this rule
with very strict discipline if your slave is to seriously take
more control of himself (and there are sometimes limits to what
can be achieved in orgasm control during coitus).

Wearing a condom reduces some sensation (obviously the thicker
for this purpose the better), and I have heard of using two or
more condoms at one time to further reduce sensation, but have
not tried it.

There is available a hollow "strap-on" that is especially made
for a male to wear. I find mine slightly uncomfortably tight
(and I don't think I am much different from average size), but
that can be part of the frustration for your slave, to be giving
you pleasure while he is tightly constricted and denied. I
recommend you try one of these, being careful in your selection
so that it is wearable.

If you are not using any means of reducing sensation, try to
learn to read when your slave is approaching the point of orgasm
and stop dead any movement (or have him stop).... the feeling of
imminent orgasm will subside for your slave, and after a time
(from a few seconds to about a minute, depending) you can resume
having him pleasure you.

It is perhaps outside the parameters of your question, but
making your slave also serve you orally perhaps goes without
saying, and there are many dildos on the market including chin
dildos (attaches to your slaves chin with straps around the back
of his head), and a thigh dildo that you sit on, and apparently
a gag dildo which sounds awesome... (excuse the pun).

(If anyone knows where to purchase the latter, please advise)

Your slave will soon realise the true meaning of submission when
he has satisfied you while denied and at your mercy for any
further sexual fulfilment.

Good luck.

sub "o"

To use your male sub as a human dildo you need to tease his
penis until he is good and hard... then install two thick
condoms on his penis and then let him penetrate you as you
desire... it is very unlikely he will be able to cum for lack of
stimulation.

The only downside I have experienced is after a while the penis
can get soft due to the lack of physical stimulation... to
compensate make sure to talk to your sub to keep him mentally
engaged so he can keep his erection longer. As a male sub I like
to hear what my dom is going to do to me later. Tell me to hold
my erection or she will tie me up and tease me for hours without
release... or whatever is a turn on to your sub.

You may have to experiment a little with condoms to find the
thickest ones.

Also, you may want to experiment with desensitizing creams
applied inside the condom... just be careful to keep it in
inside the condom so it does not come off in you.

Good Luck

Chastity belt with strap on attachment. (His own member would be
locked away whilst still having a dildo to use for yourself)

Then he would truly be your human dildo :)

The best way to prevent him from orgasming or getting any
pleasure while having sex with you is to use a desensitizing
cream that contains at least 7% Benzocaine. Which is available
at just about any adult toy store.

This will have a two fold effect, it will get and keep him hard,
and he won't feel a thing for a couple of hours.

The only downside is that you will have to use rubber gloves to
apply it to his penis (since it will make your hands numb) and
it has to be applied 10 minutes before you actually want
penetration.

I have had this used on me and it worked extremely well, I
couldn't even feel her heat during intercourse.

What my TV Mistress has tried on me is to have me cum at least
twice (forcibly in bondage by her or another TV slave), then
take a Viagra to make sure I can get hard even after that
furious activity.

The need to cum is sublimated but the hardness can be achieved
for a long time. The need to cum is thus not an issue and the
Mistress can ride or be ridden without being concerned.

http://www.mrs-silk.com

Sarah wrote:

>I want this only for my enjoyment, not his.

Sarah, having him put on two or three inexpensive condoms should
numb him. If not, try four.

Elliot
(A Male Dom who reads this digest.)

Elliot wrote:

>two or three inexpensive condoms should numb him. If not, try
>four.

But wouldn't/couldn't that prevent him from possibly sustaining
an erection?

My Mistress tried many ways to find a solution to this problem
and after many trials found that the best thing was a penis
extension condom that can be purchased very cheaply on many sex
toy websites.

It has the added bonus of giving Mistress a further 2" of
penetration and because the extension covers the head of the
penis there is no sensation at all that the male can feel while
penetration occurs so climax from physical sensation is
virtually impossible

To Sub O:

My mistress had me purchase the mouth dildo for her through
Stockroom. It's a black rubber cock gag on the inside of the
leather face strap, and a larger black dildo on the outside.
Very effective.

Soumis

I appreciate all the advice, where would I find a condom
extension? The one issue would be a way to keep him hard until
I'm done with him.

I also use another slave as a licking slave, his only job is to
provide me with orgasms when I need them. When I am finished, so
is he, I make him leave. he is under a chastity device so he
doesn't get to masturbate, usually he will release with that
after it builds for so long.

I make it clear to them that they are here for one reason and
that is to keep me pleasured. I would love to hear from some
mistresses that keep slaves this way, not just from the subs.

sarah