Do Mistresses ever TAKE a "vanilla" male?
From: fem fan
Date: Fri, 20 May 2011 10:20:13 +0000
Hello to all,
A little about myself first, I am a mid 30's male based in the
southwest of England (M4 corridor) who has, to date, never
submitted to a dominant female (of any type) even though this
stokes an almost uncontrollable fire within me.
I subscribed to DOMestic some time ago to find out if there WERE
real dominant women out there who got their kicks from knowing
and revelling in their absolute superiority over males, or
whether this was just a crazy fantasy that was only ever met by
professionals.
I have to say I was extremely happy to find that there were
definite yings to my yang out there, so I would like to thank
the readership for showing me I'm not alone.
I would also like to metaphorically bend a knee to all the true
mistresses out there - if you don't mind my saying so, you
terrify and excite me in equal measure. Given my relatively
average normal life, it is an odd thing to know that if I were
to ever meet you, your mere existence, your attitude, could turn
me into a mindless plaything while in your presence, and your
power over me would be absolute.
However, the point of this mail is to try to start a thread, in
the hope that one, might lead to another, and we can get this
great institution back up and running as I, for one, miss it! So
in that vein I guess I have two main questions.
Do Mistresses ever TAKE control? and where can they be found?
Firstly, have any of the dominant women out there ever seen and
desired a "vanilla" male, and decided they wanted him, and over
the course of time used their superiority to turn this vanilla
male into their slave or plaything? Does this ever really
happen? And if so, how?
Women with this attitude, who pursue their goals with absolute
authority and power are, to me, the epitome of true dominance...
but do they exist? I realize that ultimately the exchange will
be mutual, but is the submission ever created and extracted by
the superior?
I am sure there are a lot of stories of subs requesting to be
dominated, and ending in a dominated situation, but is there a
flipside to that coin, where the female starts by requesting
power plays where she is in the ascendent and slowly, the power
shifts and develops to a point where she demands it and the
relationship changes to one of a true mistress and slave?
The second question, which I guess is a little more personal, is
how do you spot a dominant woman? Are there any telltale signs
that might tell someone that the woman they are looking at is
one who they should bow their head to? I understand that in the
gay community there are "hanky" codes - is there any such thing
in the Femdom community?
To be honest, I'd just like to meet and talk to a truly dominant
woman, know that what she talks about, what she enjoys, she
TRULY enjoys. To be able to discuss who I am openly, and know
that the woman I am talking to understands, and even enjoys what
we are discussing. A woman who knows and embraces the fact that
she is superior to males, a woman who views men she takes as
inferiors, as possessions and playthings.
To be in a situation where we both know that she has all the
power and I am not worthy of getting to my knees and cleaning
her boots with my tongue, am not worthy to offer my mouth for
her pleasure or even her convenience...
Does anybody out there know how I would find these true
mistresses?
Apologies for the length of the post, but hopefully you may find
something of worth in there, or something you might decide
worthy of a response.
Humbly from his knees before his superiors
Femfan
femfan@hotmail.co.uk
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Replies.
Posted by: Saber | link | edited and published May 23, 2011 5:57 PM
fem fan wrote:
>any of the dominant women out there ever seen and desired a
>"vanilla" male, and decided they wanted him, and over the
>course of time used their superiority to turn this vanilla
>male into their slave or plaything? -snip- I realize that
>ultimately the exchange will be mutual, but is the submission
>ever created and extracted by the superior?
Personally, I've never seen a male in public with "submissive"
engraved across his forehead, so all my partners have been
approached from a "vanilla" standpoint in the beginning.
My current slave and I have been together now for 4 years. Tom
is to all outward appearances a very dominant male, however, to
me he is my slave. Tom is an alpha who chooses to hand the
reigns over to me. Tom cleans the house, runs the errands, and
does the cooking.
Tom and I don't participate in "playtime" everyday - we
participate in Dominance and submission. I tell him what he is
to get done every morning and he does it while I take care of my
responsibilities, which is to make sure the money comes into the
house so the bills get paid.
As for playtime activities, I am into bondage, humiliation,
spanking, and anal play predominantly. It did take some time for
us to integrate this into our lives, but with a lot of patience
I was able to get him to come around to my style of play. >:)
I began by "playfully" spanking him in the middle of sexual
intercourse, then it came to the first "real spanking" where he
was punished because he did not complete all his assigned tasks
for the day while I was at work. Anal Play was implemented
slowly by my slipping a finger up his anus while teasing his
genitals with my hands and, yes, even my tongue. And so forth
and so on.
My relationships are just that, relationships. The aspects are a
little different than my parents' relationship aspects, but it
still comes down to finding someone you are compatible with
outside the bedroom first. Play is great, but if obedience
outside the bedroom isn't there for me, then the relationship is
doomed to fail.
Sincerely,
Saber
Posted by: Madamplz | link | edited and published June 1, 2011 2:38 AM
fem fan wrote:
>have any of the dominant women out there ever seen and desired
>a "vanilla" male, and decided they wanted him, and over the
>course of time used their superiority to turn this vanilla male
>into their slave or plaything? Does this ever really happen?
>And if so, how?
I prefer men who are assertive, self actualized, yet submissive.
If a man is this way, training is both simple and lasting and
goes well beyond his sexuality.
Training a man to be sexually submissive is not difficult. It
can be achieved by keeping him in a state of arousal until he is
unable to perform yet remains wanting, or, having allowed him
some measure of gratification, returning him to that unrequited
state. All other training methods come from this.
Vanilla men simply haven't had their awareness tweaked. What
turns them submissive is the desire for a woman who concurrently
turns them on and is dominant.
Think behavioral modification.
Posted by: Strong and Sweet MN | link | edited and published January 28, 2012 10:15 AM
I adore strong submissive men, they are hard to find.
Let's face it, we are all a little quirky here. I embrace those
unique qualities in myself, and in the submissive men I am
attracted to.
Vanilla is a nice articulation. I have no interest in leather,
it doesn't enhance my best features:). The qualities of a
submissive man does:) He helps bring out my softer side.