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Hi there:

No, you are not alone!

I read every one of your Digests, especially the stories, and
some of the interesting discussions.

greetings from warm Costa Rica
greg

Hi Ms. Christine and David,

I have been a reader of yours for many years, way back on
Alt.sex.stories and I so much appreciate your sharing your life
style with us. I have just discovered this site believe it or
not and have bookmarked it so as to be a regular reader.

I live alone as it true of many of us who are both submissive
and TG and as I am older my interest in such matters has waned.
However, I do feel a kinship to those in the community whom I
know and hope to stay in touch,

Hugs
Mandee

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This is not good. I have been a lurker and occasional poster for
years. Does this mean that we are all too old? Do submissive
desires wane with age?

I was the original "West Coast reviewer" of the CD videos and
have always had such a soft spot for both of our "hosts".

My life has lead me through divorce to a wonderful marriage
where femdom is part of my daily life. I really feel that you
guys have helped me get to where I want to be.

What can we do to enliven this quiet blog?

I have some great true stories. Perhaps we should all share?!

Jboy.

Jboy,

Some true stories would be great!

I don't think that we are too old, or that this digest is too old.

Unfortunately I suspect that what has changed is people's
attention spans, and they now want quick fixes. People must be
moving to blogs and forums which are instant.

One of the good things about DOMestic is that it has been gently
moderated. The price of moderation is that there is a delay
between posting and people reading your message.

If the quiet patch continues, perhaps DOMestic needs to change
to become a forum? If you can't beat them, join them.

DOMestic has also been generous in allowing links to other
sites, and my site has had many such links. I still get visitors
from DOMestic. And what I notice is that DOMestic readers spend
a little longer reading my site than those arriving via Google.

People waste lots of time chatting in forums. DOMestic has been
great because it has been something worth spending some time to
read.

I've been reading DOMestic since the days of dial-up modems, and
it has been the high quality of some of the contributions which
has made each digest worth a look.

So I very much hope that this quiet patch ends, and people
continue to post to this valuable forum

Michael

Devotionalsex

Hello,

grgslave wrote:

>No, you are not alone!

Thanks Greg. We had a number of similar replies both on and off
list. All, without exception, wished for DOMestic to continue,
it seems, in it's present form.

We'll reply to those who posted here. Sadly we can't post the
comments some people send to the support email address unless
you request us to post it. So we can only post and reply to the
messages sent to the DOMestic address, or those posted directly
using the forum at u4ds.com. We don't have enough time available
to indulge in off-list communication.

>I read every one of your Digests, especially the stories, and
>some of the interesting discussions.

And we've both noticed that you sometimes reply to those
discussions. Please keep it up. Helpful replies to the questions
of newbies are always welcome.

Mandee wrote:

>I have been a reader of yours for many years, way back on
>Alt.sex.stories and I so much appreciate your sharing your life
>style with us

Thanks Mandee. But DOMestic is not just about us, it is meant to
be mostly about you and other readers sharing your life-styles
and your ideas and experiences. The way you make DOMestic
relevant to your tastes is to post about them here.

>I have just discovered this site believe it or not

Hmmm... It's a shame that you didn't discover us earlier.
Perhaps you didn't follow the links we provided to the online
forum at u4ds.com in the digest, on Alt.sex.stories, and in
other newsgroups.

>and have bookmarked it so as to be a regular reader.

Great. But please continue posting as well as reading. Without
feedback like yours and posts from other readers this forum
would become very dull as it would only be about Christine and
David and our tastes and preferences.

>as I am older my interest in such matters has waned. However,
>I do feel a kinship to those in the community whom I know and
>hope to stay in touch,

Please do stay in touch, and as an older member of the community
you'll have much experience that you can relate here, or help
and advice you can provide to other folk young and old.

jboy2386 wrote:

>Does this mean that we are all too old? Do submissive desires
>wane with age?

David says that's his submissive desires have not waned at all,
but he has had to become a bit more realistic in his expectation
of activity levels and styles.

The knees seem to complain first for us oldies. We're both in
our mid-fifties now and kneeling for David is not as much fun as
it was when he was younger - and sitting on his face even on a
soft bed can be hard on Christine's knees.

>I was the original "West Coast reviewer" of the CD videos and
>have always had such a soft spot for both of our "hosts".

Thanks Jboy, your video review was most welcome and is still on
our web site, and we've had a few other reviews posted to
DOMestic since then. We also notice that you post here regularly
so please continue.

>I really feel that you guys have helped me get to where I want
>to be.

Believe us when we say its been a mutual journey. We both grew
with and learned from our interaction with folk on DOMestic over
the last 15 years. We hope that with reader support in the form
of posting their comments advice and experiences here that
others will continue to benefit.

>What can we do to enliven this quiet blog?

Responding, as you do, when folk ask questions is helpful. We
were once criticised for responding too quickly to questions
ourselves, and thereby stifling comment by not giving other
readers a chance to post their opinions first. This was part of
the reason we created the blog so you could all get in early.

Now that the blog on u4ds.com posts both comments and your
replies to them almost immediately, you don't need to wait for
the now infrequent digest before responding yourselves.

Sometimes life gets in the way and we don't have the time to
write our own often long and thoughtful replies ourselves as
soon as we would want to. But we always find the time to post
the feedback of others on u4ds.com - sometimes within minutes,
and usually within hours of receipt.

>I have some great true stories. Perhaps we should all share?!

Yes, definitely. You don't need to ask. While fictional stories
are fun for some it is the true experiences that many couples
actually want to read on DOMestic and which tend to encourage
interaction.

MichaelK wrote:

>People must be moving to blogs and forums which are instant.

Yes. We both think that may well be the case. We could make
DOMestic on u4ds.com both instant and unmoderated. The problem
is that to do that we would have to force the user to register,
and we would have to disallow (or moderate) posts which included
web site links, or the forum would soon become full of spam.

We like the fact that DOMestic allows you to be anonymous and
doesn't require registration. However, we also think that some
folk reading the digest may not realise how quickly and easily
they can post their messages or replies on u4ds.com

>One of the good things about DOMestic is that it has been
>gently moderated.

We think that is true, but if the price of that is that everyone
posts their feedback on the unmoderated forums, or those that
require registration, then we would be left with no choice but
to follow suit or let DOMestic die.

Your own posts here have been long, quite regular, and well
considered. We are both sure they will have been helpful to
those of more gentle tastes, so please continue.

>The price of moderation is that there is a delay between
>posting and people reading your message.

The delay if posting via u4ds.com is so short as to be
irrelevant to all except those who want the most instant kind of
chatter. We rarely find the need to delay a genuine post longer
than a few hours.

>If the quiet patch continues, perhaps DOMestic needs to change
>to become a forum? If you can't beat them, join them.

We believe that the way u4ds.com works, it is a forum now. Just
that most of the current DOMestic folk are not using it as such.
It is only those folk who wait for the digest before responding
who see a long delay in their response appearing.

We did run the FEMdom_sex list on Topica in unmoderated format
for quite a while, but even there the inability for the system
to stop malware and spam caused us to set that list to being
moderated.

If those who once enjoyed chatting on FEMdom_sex would like us
to set up a registration system that would allow instantaneous
chatter, we'll give it a go.

>DOMestic has also been generous in allowing links to other
>sites, and my site has had many such links

Yes, but the effect of allowing links is that we must moderate
in some way to stop the spammers and malware. We run other
forums that require registration in our web hosting business and
we know that even spammers are capable of registering on a site
to get their messages through.

>People waste lots of time chatting in forums

We would like to see some of those people spending their time
replying to messages on u4ds.com - it's not instant chatter, but
folk can now use things like Twitter for that kind of chat now:-

http://twitter.com/DOMesticFemDom

We believe that short messages posted @DOMesticFemDom could also
be a valuable way to chat and share via DOMestic. Or have we
misunderstood how Twitter is being used by everyone else
nowadays?

>I very much hope that this quiet patch ends, and people
>continue to post to this valuable forum

Thanks Michael, We've seen it pick up a bit since we mentioned
the lull, but we think that folk could make much better use of
the free forum on u4ds.com

What is important is that the over ten thousand recipients of
the digest don't all passively read what is sent out, but
instead start to join in as well at:-

http://u4ds.com/

and/or via Twitter there so that we will grow to be even more
useful to you all in the next fifteen years.

sincerely,
Christine and David at Ms-Christine.com

looking at jboy's post i had to give my head a shake to be sure
i hadn't posted that lol

boyj/jboy

Hello,

Jonathan Howes aka boyj wrote:

>i had to give my head a shake to be sure i hadn't posted that

Well, I guess there must be quite a few "boys" reading DOMestic
with a first name starting with the initial J.

The jboy you are replying about/to posts under the identity
"jboy2386"

If all the boys with a first initial of "J" post here, then
you'll need to differentiate yourselves in a manner similar to
that which "jboy2386" has already done.

But "boyj", in your case you are posting by email, so your name
in the "From" field of your email header currently results in
you posting under the name of "Jonathan Howes" rather than
"boyj" or "jboy" which means we can tell the difference even if
you are confused. :-)

If you post using the online form at:-

http://u4ds.com/

then you can choose to post under another or more precise
identity if you prefer.

sincerely,
Christine at Ms-Christine.com

Renew or get your DOMestic password at
http://u4ds.com/password

Christine and David wrote:

>don't all passively read what is sent out, but instead start to
>join in as well at -snip- so that we will grow to be even more
>useful to you all in the next fifteen years.

Hello to all,

I am writing as I noticed that there have been little or no
digests in the past few months, and having emailed Mistress
Christine it turns out that this is mainly due to the fact that
little other than stories have been posted to the DOMestic site,
which is a great reason to join, but means that the digests,
which I looked forward to, have been few and far between.

That being the case I decided to put in a little missive
elsewhere in this blog / digest.....

http://u4ds.com/2011/05/do_mistresses_ever_take_a_vani.shtml

....in the hope that one, might lead to another,
and we can get this great institution back up and
running as I, for one, miss it!

Humbly from his knees before his superiors

Femfan

femfan@hotmail.co.uk
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